In Defense of Ash.... not that she needs it !!!
Well this is sort of a reply to a post that i read.... but also in general to some of the stuff i heard recently. Well it all started about a year back , when the rumours of Ash and Abhi were going around , and we had a visit from these 3 women from a client banks treasury. We were just chit chatting and then suddenly one of them some how veers on to how she no longer likes Abhi, coz he is now dating ash. Now these were not exactly the most gorgeous women in the world or for that matter charming or hip or even plain nice ! And i am thinking to my self , hello like he gives a shit!
Well i must admit a soft corner for Ash, to me she is one of the most beautiful women i have met (albeit briefly , and before she became famous) . Suprisingly a lot of people disagree with me , and don't really find her beautiful, but i guess that's what makes the world go around. Now all in all i don't have a problem with what people say about Ash, i mean it probably doesn't affect her but why me ? But generally it has got me thinking, who is this person we are talking about ? An actress ( i haven't seen any of her movies so i can't comment on how that's going, but from reviews i am guessing she is not great ), a beauty queen. Now these are not exactly the people that you model your normal life around. Sure its probably entertaining to read about all the juicy details, but not being someone with the journalistic connections, i don't really know her , so am in a position to judge ?
Bottom line is that i have just 2 points. One , she is an actress and if i were to model my life around her, it would be mostly restricted to her profession. Secondly she was the alleged victim here , now given that the alleged aggressor, still is a popular matinee idol, is still known for his temper, has driven over a bunch of people (allegedly) and he is still a free man! So would u really want to go up against that ? Strange but in a lot of ways it seems to me that we are punishing the victim , and not the person who committed the crime !!! I can't believe that anyone could forgive and accept anyone who beats up on a woman !!!
Finally someone mentioned that she was probably the wrong person to play and promote the movie "provoked". Well again i disagree, two points again. One for her it was probably the best way to get the trauma and anger out of her system , by playing someone else who went through something similar. Second , perhaps this is her way of speaking out and supporting a great cause without making it about herself!
I guess sometimes we just dislike people and nothing can change that. We always expect a lot from people who are in the limelight and they often disappoint, but on this i could not in all good faith fault Ash. But then again this is just my opinion.
Well this is sort of a reply to a post that i read.... but also in general to some of the stuff i heard recently. Well it all started about a year back , when the rumours of Ash and Abhi were going around , and we had a visit from these 3 women from a client banks treasury. We were just chit chatting and then suddenly one of them some how veers on to how she no longer likes Abhi, coz he is now dating ash. Now these were not exactly the most gorgeous women in the world or for that matter charming or hip or even plain nice ! And i am thinking to my self , hello like he gives a shit!
Well i must admit a soft corner for Ash, to me she is one of the most beautiful women i have met (albeit briefly , and before she became famous) . Suprisingly a lot of people disagree with me , and don't really find her beautiful, but i guess that's what makes the world go around. Now all in all i don't have a problem with what people say about Ash, i mean it probably doesn't affect her but why me ? But generally it has got me thinking, who is this person we are talking about ? An actress ( i haven't seen any of her movies so i can't comment on how that's going, but from reviews i am guessing she is not great ), a beauty queen. Now these are not exactly the people that you model your normal life around. Sure its probably entertaining to read about all the juicy details, but not being someone with the journalistic connections, i don't really know her , so am in a position to judge ?
Bottom line is that i have just 2 points. One , she is an actress and if i were to model my life around her, it would be mostly restricted to her profession. Secondly she was the alleged victim here , now given that the alleged aggressor, still is a popular matinee idol, is still known for his temper, has driven over a bunch of people (allegedly) and he is still a free man! So would u really want to go up against that ? Strange but in a lot of ways it seems to me that we are punishing the victim , and not the person who committed the crime !!! I can't believe that anyone could forgive and accept anyone who beats up on a woman !!!
Finally someone mentioned that she was probably the wrong person to play and promote the movie "provoked". Well again i disagree, two points again. One for her it was probably the best way to get the trauma and anger out of her system , by playing someone else who went through something similar. Second , perhaps this is her way of speaking out and supporting a great cause without making it about herself!
I guess sometimes we just dislike people and nothing can change that. We always expect a lot from people who are in the limelight and they often disappoint, but on this i could not in all good faith fault Ash. But then again this is just my opinion.
posted by Annddy at 2:22 PM
6 Comments:
:) i didnt know you liked her andy... now i dont like you!
no seriously.. the man who beat her up should be behind bars. i think he's an asshole and an animal.
the reason why ppl rage against her? the same reason why i get women telling me i am a setback to the feminist movement. very often one person's choices make a huge difference to the masses. its hard for the rest of us women to sit around and watch an idol take crap. as a filmstar and with all that social responsibility jazz, one expects her to speak up - like Preity Zinta. it doesnt matter if she's donated her eyes. whats the big deal in giving away something after ur dead? those will only help one person. but the point is that her move inspired a 100 ppl more to do the same. and this was a serious cause. violence against women.. anyway. this comment is becoming a post... so ... shall shut up!
I want to add soemthing here. I have no opinion per se.. But I just want to utter, I love Ash, I love Salman, I love Abhishek, I love Priety zinta.. I love most of them, may be all of
them ;-) .. Not for what they are as a person.. But for what their celluloid presence is. If I have to look for role models for Indian women .. I would look up to Kiran Bedi, Sarojini Naidu, Kasturba Gandhi,Medha Patekar, Laxmi Sehgal etc etc.. The list is long.. What should we expect out of these materialistic bunch of average people thrown into limelight.. Not all who are famous has the bone and character for it. So why single her out..
I continue to love all of them , Arjun Rampal a bit.. ;-) just for
looks :-)
Andy...
I agree. I am no great fan of Ash's, and I think she could have done a better job in 'provoked' or maybe the director could have... but I would not do a character assassination of her on playing the role and using it as a way to speak up.
We pay to see those people on the screen because we like to see them on the screen. Their contracts don't include moral policing or ask them to be role models in their real life. If they recognize their social responsibility, good. But who are we to dictate how it should be fulfilled? Just because they are in the limelight? Let's castigate her for her acting and leave it at that, unless she decides to get into politics?
PS: got here from MM's blog.
Ritu
You should post more often. You write very well. Very aticulate for a banker !
mm...
we agree to disagree
Zeya
couldn't have said it better myself...
Ritu...
i agree completely.... and i guess i owe the MKM one
WB...
thanks , i am working on blogging more often, and hope to do so ... fingers crossed
:)
And yeah-you should write more often:)
Ritu
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